This series was inspired by the I Support You campaign, which was created by three amazing bloggers: I Am Not the Babysitter, Mama by the Bay and The Fearless Formula Feeder. I want to provide a place where moms can feel free to share their experiences and find encouragement, love and acceptance – regardless of feeding choices. All moms deserve to feel supported.
Gena is the mother of two – one handsome boy and one lovely lady. Read her story below and give her some love in the comments!
Please share a brief summary of your feeding experience.
I formula fed both of my children, ages 6 and 2.
What was your original plan for feeding your children, and how did that compare to what you ultimately ended up doing?
With my first child, my plan was to breastfeed for a month or so. I know many would think it sounds very unmaternal, but I was not really into nursing, but I thought I would give it a try for a month or so. When he was born, I tried having him latch on, but he wasn’t getting anything so he kept stopping. I tried using the breast pump and then they gave me some medication to try and get milk to come in. Because he was so big (almost 11 lbs) we began giving him formula until I was able to nurse. After about 5 days, there was still no milk or even colostrum, so we decided to stop and just use formula. With my second child, I just went right with formula. It was what I knew and it had worked well with my son, so we went that route.
What kind of support did you have for your feeding choice?
My husband did want me to nurse at first, but when it didn’t work and the formula was working well, he was on board to stop and use formula. My mom didn’t nurse me or my brother, so she was very supportive of my decision.
What was the best part about how you fed your children?
The best part, by far, was that other people could get up and help with all of those night feedings!!! I also, would not have nursed in public, so I think it would have been difficult to adapt our lifestyle to staying home all the time. With formula, I was able to feed him wherever we were.
What was the worst?
The only negative that I can think of is the cost!
What myths about how you fed your children were the most hurtful?
That my kids wouldn’t be healthy since they were not nursed!
What is your “truth” that counteracts those myths?
I had friends that had kids the same age as mine that did breastfeed and their kids actually got sick much more than mine! He was almost a year before he had his first cold or ear infection. At that age, 2 of my friends children already had ear tubes put in!
What would help you (or would have helped you) to feel supported/understood in your choices?
I felt supported by those who mattered! I didn’t pay much attention to those that don’t know me or know my reasons for my decisions.
Think ten, twenty years into the future. If you could give your grown children one message about how they choose to feed their child what would it be?
Do what you feel is right! What works for you and your baby is the most important and you do what you think is right!
Thank you for sharing your story, Gena! You are a good mama.
Tell us in the comments about your feeding experience and how you rocked it like this mama!